Having learned in part one of this post that a family begins with a man and a woman, we then see that marriage concerns a godly offspring. At this time in Israel men were divorcing their wives against the Mosaic Law given by God in Deuteronomy 24. This sobering passage links this to a treacherous spirit in 2:14. Treachery is doing harm to another person. Treachery is the ultimate in human hatred. Treachery is the total opposite of kindness. Kindness seeks to do good and to bless. Treachery seeks to hurt and harm and ultimately to curse. In the case of marriage, these men desired to curse their wives by forsaking them, divorcing them. But some did not. They apparently were not many, but a remnant. But the reason they did not act treacherously was because they had a remnant of spirit or sense. Verse 15 in my Bible translates it as the Holy Spirit, but it could be a reference to the human spirit because verse 16 says “take heed to your spirit.” I think this is what it means. It could not mean that those who loved their wives had a little bit of the Holy Spirit, just enough to make them do the right thing. No, they had a lot of godly sense. They took heed to their attitudes and those seed thoughts that eventually rise up into monster attitudes and devilish actions.
And the sensible thing about these men was that they had a concern for a godly offspring. Notice this also 2:15. A more accurate translation is simply He sought a godly offspring. He was concerned to have a godly offspring. He was more concerned about the effect of his spirit and his marriage on his offspring than about his own personal feelings about his wife. The others, the many, had everything upside down and twisted about. These men had everything right side up and straight. They had sense. Though I do not think that 2:15a is a reference to the Holy Spirit, I believe that these men had sense because they had the Holy Spirit.
Some practical advice and warnings. To married men and women I say your marriage is meant to have an impact on your children. Your marriage cannot save your children, but your marriage need not be an excuse for your children not to believe in Christ and live by His teachings. Your marriage is not the answer to their sin problem, but your marriage can show them how the Gospel solves the sin problem. Right next to the priority of maintaining the covenant relationship that you have with your spouse is the priority of raising a godly offspring. Our ministry as parents is not to see to it that our children are fashionable in the world and as much like them as we can allow them to be to avoid any reproach, it is to show them the necessity and beauty of godliness. We care more about their love for God than anything else. We can’t turn them into converts, but we can make the Christian faith attractive, enjoyable, while maintaining its distinctives in a world where anything goes. I ask you men whether or not you are more concerned about each of you children’s state in godliness than you are about you own lusts and passions? And do you realize how inordinate lust and passion is poison to your seed. I ask you mothers whether you are more concerned about raising a godly offspring or about giving your offspring the best that this world has to offer.
Third, everything depends on a person’s spirit. The evil taking place in family life at this time in post-exilic Israel had to do with a treacherous, malicious spirit. And these guilty ones just kept right on bringing their offerings to the Lord and expecting the Lord to look favorably on them. And when they had an inkling that the Lord was not pleased with them, they just pouted and wept tears and groaned like little children because the Lord did not accept their offerings (2:13). So the prophet gives the solution to them. It is simple and straightforward. Discernment is needed to see the profound simplicity of this divine solution. Here it is: “Take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously (2:16)!” What does it mean to take heed to your spirit?
First it means to take a good hard look at ourselves and our lives and make a sober, scriptural assessment. Many people are afraid to do that because they know they will need God’s help to change. Or they are afraid of the consequences of coming clean with their sinful habits or actions. But if we care about others more than ourseves, namely, our companion and wife by covenant and agodly offspring, no amount of self-denial will be too great a cost for us to pay for those whom we love.
Second, it means to take a good hard look at where our attitudes and actions are likely to lead us in the future. Attitudes are not like games we play. They are seeds that grow bigger and spread further. The Gospel gives us many attitude replacements for life that enable us to get along with all of the imperfections and disappointments that come even from those within our families. Our family is the most precious gem that wewear closest to our body. That closeness must be preserved in attitude and action.
Finally, taking heed to your spirit means that we must have the baptism, filling, fullness, and fruit of the Spirit to have a human spirit that is different from the rest of fallen humanity. As a Christian who is in Christ and Christ in me, my spirit is actually the most amazing possession I have. Because in my spirit dwells and abides the Holy Spirit of the eternal God and His Son Jesus Christ. In marriage and family counseling I remind people about the four pillars of Christian marriage and the Christian home. Pillars hold up marriage and the family. The pillar of God the Father, the sovereign will of God; the pillar of God the Son, the Savior who poured out His life-blood to save sinners from the wrath of God; the pillar of the Spirit of God who fills us and gives us fruit; and the pillar of the church of God. the new creation, the new family to which I am joined in a covenant relationship. Another way to say this is to say that I take heed to amazing truth that I am a temple of the Holy Spirit.
Marriage and family books can be extremely helpful and sometimes they are essential to getting things right and on track again. God gifts many of His people to write warmly and well about the pressing issues of family. I thank God for many works that I can recommend and personally enjoy about marriage and family life! But never forget that we have the indwelling God in our spirits, transforming our spirits, challenging our spirits, rebuking and re-invigorating our spirits at other times. Take heed to what God is doing there, so that wenever act treacherously toward our spouses, our children, or our parents.
Pastor John Reuther















